Journal

What Body Safe Really Means in an Object of Pleasure

"Body safe" sounds like a promise, but in the US it has no official definition. Here is what the materials actually tell you, and the five questions worth asking before you choose.

Desire Looks Different for Everyone

For Ace Week, a respectful look at what asexuality is, what the ace spectrum includes, and why desire was never meant to have just one shape.

How to Choose Your First Object of Pleasure

Your first object of pleasure starts with you, not a spec sheet. A gentle guide to choosing by feeling, sound, shape and touch, with no pressure and nothing to prove.

How to Give an Intimate Gift That Feels Elegant, Not Awkward

How to choose and give an intimate gift with intention, even in front of other people, and what to give when you are not sure.